We’re all afraid to fail. Nobody particularly likes the humiliation or the shame, but why do we react that way? We’re taught to regard failure as a moral or character defect; irredeemable and incorrigible. Failure is supposed to lay bare our own eventual doom.
In the real world, that’s not what failure is all about. Failure is where we learn what not to do. It’s our most valuable school. Our failures are often the lessons we retain most vividly and learn best. I don’t know anybody that hasn’t failed at something, at some time, yet the social stigma persists. Everybody’s scared of catching the contagion, so when we fail, we often feel friendless and alone. Nobody wants to be around a loser, right?
Wrong. A real loser is somebody that fails and never tries again. It’s somebody that buys into the whole competitive dog-eat-dog rhetoric and volunteers to be the underdog in the fight. They take the fall and accept their bit-part as being the beaten, defeated dog. What’s the use in that?
Reframe the context. Failure is about trying. Failure is about trying to move things forward and making progress, instead of passively observing, doing nothing or accepting / complaining about the status quo. Failure is about being a way seer.
Given that we all fail, why hold back? If you are going to fail at some time anyway, why not be a failure at something amazing, life-affirming, ambitious, big, impressive and way beyond what anybody else has attempted? Why hold back? Who wants to fail anonymously and unnoticed, in all honesty?
They always say feel the fear and act anyway. I would add to that: face the inevitability of your own failure at some point or another, fail gloriously, soak up every valuable lesson you can from your failure and move on. Becoming a serial failure might actually be the route to becoming an eventual success.
Even of you never do succeed, you’ll have had an entertaining time and probably gathered a lot of admirers along the way. Nobody likes a loser, but everybody loves those that keep trying. I wonder why nobody can see the contradiction in that. We should love losers, because losers persist.
Fail often, fail gloriously, appreciate the spectacular failure you have made and chalk it up to valuable experience. Then try again.